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All about INFP Personality Type – The Ideal Negotiator

All about INFP Personality Type – The Ideal NegotiatorUpdated on January 12, 2022 | Published on October 3, 2021
Reviewed by Dr. Nereida Gonzalez-Berrios, MD, Certified Psychiatrist

INFP Personality Type – The Ideal Negotiator

Are you a sensitive, quiet, and reserved person? Do you feel deeply for others without judging and criticizing them? Are you intuitive, thoughtful, and wish to live an ideal life? Then, you could be an INFP.

You are driven by personal values and ethics. However, your intuition and introversion traits make you a quiet and private person. 

The inner world is full of curiosity and deep feelings that make you overly sensitive and compassionate.

Sometimes, if someone tries to challenge your autonomous way of thinking and perceiving, you may retaliate against the system. Maybe you are not used to rigid structures and time constraints.

You are skilled in handling the emotions of others. Others feel safe and secure if they are with you. Let us take a sneaky look into your exclusive world and know more about you. Right?

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INFP Personality Meaning & Signs
INFP Personality Meaning & Signs
INFP Personality Strengths, Shortcomings & Hobbies
INFP Personality Strengths, Shortcomings & Hobbies

INFP – Meaning (Mediator personality type)

SUMMARY
INFP stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, and Perceiving personality type. They are imaginative and curious, usually living by strong values. Being caring people, they are concerned about the well-being and growth of others. Moreover, INFPs are non-judgmental and strive to make the world a better place to live in.

In MBTI (Myers-Briggs type indicator), INFPs are known as the ‘thoughtful idealist’ personality type. They are the most idealist type with a strong sense of personal values. 

For an INFP, truth and honesty are the pillars on which a prosperous future can be built.

People who belong to this personality type are intuitive feeling types who are kind and caring. They remain open to other’s feelings and can understand their own emotions equally well. 

INFPs are imaginative and they believe that each of us is born with certain innate qualities that need to be nurtured. You have your own path to be lived by, that is guided by faith, beliefs, and principles.

The mediator personality is an introvert, lives in a quiet world of poise and serenity. They derive energy from spending time with their inner realm,

It helps them to ponder over new concepts, rather than blankly following the facts, figures, and details of everything.

INFPs are more emotional and less logical. Thus their important life decisions are based on emotions and not on judgments and reasoning.

They are spontaneous, flexible, and prefer to do things with much planning and organization.

INFPs are also known as the healer. They are emotionally expressive and can care deeply about the feelings of others. Their compassionate and empathetic nature makes them feel about others deeply. 

They are known to heal the deep cuts and wounds of others with their kind words and needful support given at the right time.

INFPs live by values and integrity. They never conform to the ideologies of others if they think it’s not worthy. They are unconventional and possess no preference to fit in the crowd. 

INFPs are accommodating and believe in giving enough space to others. They remain open to the views of others, but never compromise their values and beliefs on the way.

They allow the healthy exchange of ideas with others because they are typically cool and open-minded. INFPs keep their options open to discuss further ethics, spirituality, and personal growth.

These individuals are private, yet passionate to understand and be aware of other people’s thoughts and feelings. They accept others easily because they are not rigid. Moreover, they believe in the inner goodness of all human beings on this planet.

INFP personality description

The acronym INFP stands for the following:

1. IntrovertedIntroverts are quiet, focused inward, and are self-aware. INFPs are reflective and prefer a lonely time. Their inner world is full of creative ideas that make them ponder and daydream on various known and unknown things.

2. INtuitive – INFPs are guided by a strong instinct. They know what is good for them. They can sense problems much easier than it actually happens. Being intuitive, their gut feeling is quite strong and it always tells the truth.

3. Feeling – INFPs are sensitive and can feel deeply for others. Their decisions are based on the careful appreciation of feelings and not on crude logic and judgments. 

4. Perceiving – INFPs are spontaneous, flexible, and accepting by nature. As we know, perceiving personality types are relaxed and open-minded. They can easily adapt themselves to changing circumstances and hate routine and order.

INFP personality traits

The essential characteristics of an INFP personality type are:

  • Thoughtful
  • Loyal
  • Friendly
  • Imaginative
  • Spontaneous
  • Insightful
  • Compassionate
  • Lives by values and principles
  • Devoted 
  • Non-judgemental

What if you are an INFP?

If you are an INFP, you must be like this:

You are an innovative problem solver who is guided by personal values and a strong gut feeling. Being an imaginative and thoughtful person, you trust your instincts to grow personally and professionally.

People may consider you as a quiet and boring person, but in reality, you are vibrant and energetic from within. Your inner world is rich, yet remains elusive for others. 

As you are an introvert, you love to ponder and imagine. You may lose yourself in daydreams and deep thoughts. 

The mind musings create various figments of imaginations that can help you create novel ways of problem-solving.

As already spoken about, you are kind and empathetic. You can readily handle emotional situations pretty well because you are sensitive to the needs of others. For you, the ideal relationship is based on mutual trust, love, and respect.

You would prefer a partner who shares their wildest dreams and deepest fears with ease and grace. Honesty and integrity in a relationship remain your first choice.

It’s good to be empathetic but at times, it may create problems for you. You may feel the pressure of emotionally supporting others, and sometimes internalizing the negative emotions of others in the way.

This happens because you’re not good at setting boundaries in relationships. Sometimes, you may allow others to intrude and peep inside your inner world. This makes you feel insecure and vulnerable from the inside.

You may feel overwhelmed by the wrongdoings of others because for you moral living is a priority and you feel uncomfortable with the thought of so many wrong things that need to be set right.

Being an INFP, you are committed to authentic and honest living. Sometimes, you may feel disconnected from reality. 

You may lack a purpose in life. This mere thought of living a meaningless life can make you awry and stressed.

INFPs believe in change and have a better world for themselves and others. 

Their idealist mind knows that every problem does not have a solution and the world can never become perfect, yet they try hard to make it better and progressive.


INFP personality type (30 signs of an INFP personality type)

The sixteen personality types described in the Myers-Briggs have unique signs and traits that help us to differentiate between the types.

INFPs are sober, kind, and gentle types. Sometimes they are known as dreamers, healers for their empathetic nature. 

People may know them as fragile crybabies, yet their real nature may remain hidden from the entire world, only except a few.

These individuals are self-reflecting and friendly at the same time. In one way, they possess a strong gut feeling that is quiet and always tells the truth. 

Now let’s know the typical signs of an INFP.

1. Non-conforming by nature

INFPs are open to new learning and experiences all the time. They also welcome others’ beliefs and opinions and eagerly listen to their point of view.

However, it has been found that most INFPs are non-conformists. They base their decisions not on the opinions of others but on what they feel is right. They never want to go with the crowd.

If they have a definite plan of action in mind, they will move with it, even if others do not like it. They would prefer to walk alone and not follow the majority of them.

2. Lives by morality and ethical code of conduct

INFPs are value-oriented people. They are guided by the principles of right and wrong. For them, honesty is the best policy and loyalty is the pride that makes them feel stronger from inside.

They are the ones who never deviate from moral principles. People of this personality type cannot tell a lie, and if they do anything wrong, they would die out of guilt.

Walking away from the correct path and way of living can cripple their self-esteem. 

3. INFPs are highly emotional 

INFPs are emotional and sensitive. They feel deeply and remain aware of their own feelings and the feelings of others. This makes them empathetic people. 

They can feel happy, angry, sad, and jealous as the situation calls for.

In trying times, you may cry to give a vent to the pain and suffering that you are feeling deep within.

4. Can make friends easily

INFPs are loyal friends. Since they can feel deeply for others, they can befriend those who are kind and compassionate. 

Your close circle of friends is filled with genuine, ethical, and compassionate people. They never get along with those who are unkind, ruthless and show off a lot to the world.

5. Smart and sharp

INFPs are sharp, witty, and smart. They tend to possess good observation power that helps them to understand the ideas and perspectives of others easily. 

Sometimes, they can predict the outcome of their actions by judging the situation closely. This helps them to understand whether the designated plan will be successful or it will fail.

6. Diverse interests

INFPs are known to have diverse interests. They love to do new activities whenever possible. As they are lifelong learners, they never miss an opportunity to upgrade their knowledge base.

They can randomly do many things at a time. Thus, it helps them gather new experiences every now and then. Another notable aspect about their personality is, they never master any skill seriously. 

Though they would love to know many things together, however, they lose focus on a particular task on the way and may not learn it fully.

7. Bullying irritates you

As INFPs are ethically bound, they never allow others to bully and take advantage of them. In reality, they hate people who are selfish and take advantage of others. Moreover, anyone trying to intimidate, harm, or torment others for no reason is not a INFPs cup of tea.

8. INFPs needs to be motivated

INFPs need to be motivated all the time. They may easily lose focus and get swayed into deep thoughts without accomplishing the task they were doing.

You are somewhat fickle-minded and have an ever-changing mood. Your level of motivation may go down at any moment if the task appears uninteresting and mundane.

If the goal appears far away, you may lose your motivation to continue further because the fire in you dies out fast. In such a situation, INFPs need someone else to motivate them continuously and keep them going consistently.

9. INFPs are a perfectionist

INFPs are perfectionists. They are clear about their vision and life goals. From very early, they know the why, where, when, and how of every situation. They know where things are going to move and look. 

INFPs are introverts and think deeply. Thus, they are clear about the big picture, can plan perfectly’ yet do not know how to implement those ideas into reality.

These individuals cannot implement their ideas well. If the plan deviates from the expectations, they may lose motivation to continue further.

10. Emotions run deep just like the still waters

INFJs think deeply about everything. They are serious people who take their personal and professional life very seriously.

For them, emotions run deep within and this makes them the most sensitive and caring personalities. Since they are introverts, they remain quiet and thoughtful and hardly express their deepest feelings in front of others.

You are quite good at keeping things to yourself. Sometimes, this may make you feel guilty. INFPs are old souls with a deep inner world. You can understand a situation better than others. 

Your in-depth thought processes and strong intuition make you a wise and mature person. As you are powered by morality, you will self-reflect on the situation you are in before deciding on anything significant.

11. Bossiness of others irritates you

The bossy people detested you a lot. It has been found that many INFPs leave their job and suffer from an intense mid-life career crisis, only because they were not comfortable following the bossy superiors and toxic work environments.

These individuals want a safe space to thrive and perform well, without toxic co-workers and interfering bosses roaming around.

12. You may judge people silently

People know you as a kind and adjustable person but little did they know about your inner critic. Sometimes you may judge people silently and try to evaluate them critically. 

This happens because you are a perfectionist. You will always want others to work at their optimum levels and set a standard. 

Whenever it doesn’t happen, you may evaluate them critically and judge their beliefs, thoughts, and actions spontaneously.

13. INFPs are a daydreamer

This is a notable sign of an INFP. The intuitive and thoughtful mind gets busy with random thoughts and makes you ponder over many known and unknown issues. 

You dream about future possibilities and present problems. Maybe this is a way to figure out how things could actually take shape in reality.

Sometimes you may catch up doing the same thing, reviewing every minute detail deeply before executing the plans into action.

14. Procrastination

INFPs are creative and have a bagful of novel ideas but they are lazy fellows who may not even turn their ideas into reality.

They are not the go-getter type and may lose focus on the way. Moreover, they may become laid-back at times and this laziness restricts their path towards further progress. They may not fulfill their vision and find it hard to become successful in life.

15. You are not a socialite

Being an introvert, INFPs are never comfortable in social setups. Their social presence appears boring and unattractive

They never like talkative people and usually avoid them. Even in a party, you will find an INFP moving around alone, not really mingling with others dearly.

You are a born observer and love to notice and perceive the behavior of others, without getting too close to them.

Too much socialization, small talks, chit-chats are not meant for an INFP.

16. Self-doubt

Sometimes, INFPs have doubts about their own abilities. You may feel that whatever you have achieved in life is out of good luck and you have not done much about it.

You are extremely self-conscious and may judge yourself harshly, if things falter and do not move, as expected. In such a situation, you may even start blaming yourself for the failure.

17. You can read other’s emotions

INTPs have an introverted feeling (Fi) as their dominant cognitive function. This makes you a sensitive and generous individual.

You can easily understand the subtle feelings of others and read their mind well. Sometimes, you can even comprehend the gestures, tone, and words of others.

There is a general tendency to judge people according to their choice of words and actions. INTPs can understand the intentions of others. 

This helps them to decide whether they can mingle with the person or stay away from them.

18. INFPs are down to earth and simple

INFPs are earthy and simple people. For them, values are more important than show-offs. They never believe in projecting out what matters the least to them.

They love to live simply and remain humble and grateful for whatever they have achieved. INFPs are nature lovers and believe in simple living and high thinking.

Being an introvert, you keep your wishes inside and hate to follow others on the way. You never follow the trend that goes on around, rather would prefer to walk alone, not with the crowd. 

You are creative and take pride in your rich inner world. Maybe you do not feel the need to follow the crowd and live by your own principles. 

Sometimes, you may become a trendsetter because of your natural talents and others may start following you instantly.

20. INFPs can forgive others but never forgets

Your kind and generous nature make you a forgiving person. You will easily forgive others for their mistakes or bad behavior. To be more precise, you will never harbor resentments against them.

Every experience is new learning for you. You will not forget what has happened and next time you will remain more cautious and alert while dealing with toxic people.

You will never cling to disappointments and anger, yet by now you know who to trust.

21. You’re not open to criticisms and evaluations

Being an introvert, you are not open to evaluations and criticisms. Below your hard exterior, you have a soft heart that gets hurt with harsh words, bad behavior, and crude criticisms.

You cannot bear negative feedback from people who are dear to you. This may make you feel insecure and sad from within.

22. Idle mind irks you

INFPs can never sit idle. Even if you are alone somewhere, you will always find ways to keep yourself busy. INFPs keep themselves busy with books, music, household chores and much more. 

You have an exploring and intuitive mind and can create much random stuff worth recognition.

23. Meaningful living

INFPs live a purposeful life. They try to find meaning in everything they do. INFPs never run behind money, status, and social recognition. 

Their main motive is to seek inspiration from others’ lives and find their own place in this world.

Since these individuals are guided by morality, they live by it and try to make the world a better place for everyone.

24. You’re prone to gloom and low spirits

INFPs often suffer from sadness and may feel low at times. Though you know that the world cannot be perfect and it will always fall short of your expectations, yet you are unable to accept this fact in reality.

Similarly, you would prefer to have committed and deep personal relationships but may not find it in reality. 

Sometimes deep feelings of gloom may also come from fear of missing out (FOMO) important opportunities in life. This can make you emotionally overwhelmed and tense.

25. Mundane tasks is dreadful for you

INFPs hate routine tasks and mundane activities that slow down their creativity and make them feel bored. Your intuition always looks for novel things and you may easily get frustrated with repetitive tasks.

The routine chores like checking emails, washing dishes, keeping things neat and orderly may irritate you quickly.

26. INFPs are peacemakers and they avoid conflict at all costs

 INFPs never like tension and conflict in their intimate relationships. They avoid conflicts and take the role of a peacemaker. 

They take every small effort to avoid fights and squabbling. Conflicts make them feel insecure about the future of the relationship. Sometimes, they may withdraw and forgive the other person. They do not want to hurt people in any way.

27. INFPs want freedom

INFPs love independence and autonomy. They hate being regulated by others. Usually, they behave like a teacher who is an independent thinker and is not bound by the rules of others.

INFPs love to be guided by their intuition and nurtured by their imaginations. Their free spirit gives them the confidence that they need to live a fulfilled life.

28. You’re a homely person

For an INFP, the home is where the heart is. You love homely life and spending time with your close family members. Sometimes you may feel nostalgic about some old family function that you were a part of.

On weekends, you are not a party-type person, rather you prefer home ambiance and comfort. Being an introvert, you may need alone time, and so home serves a good purpose in this regard.

29. You may appear dumb and foolish

When others meet you for the first time, they may find you foolish and uninteresting. This is because you are a quiet and reserved person. 

Others may misunderstand you as less intelligent, voiceless, and a passive person.

In such a situation, people may not ask for your opinions. When you have proved your worth through your decisions and accomplishments, you will get your due recognition. Others may take some more time to know you well because you are not loud and socially dynamic.

30. Small circle of friend

INFPs have a small number of friends. They are private people and cannot mingle with everyone they meet in their day-to-day life.

They are choosy as far as friends are concerned. More to this, INFPs believe in long-term committed friendships that can last for a lifetime. Thus, they are picky and will have only a few of them closely knit in their heart.


Cognitive dynamics of an INFP personality (The Functional stack)

The INFP functional stack consists of four functions that are arranged in a hierarchy with the dominant functions at the top, followed by auxiliary and tertiary functions, and then the inferior functions as the least developed ones.

These four cognitive functions determine INFPs thought processes and emotional states in different life situations. It shows how this personality type can always remain in touch with their beliefs and emotions.

The dominant cognitive function of an INFP is introverted feeling (Fi) and is supported by the auxiliary function of extraverted intuition (Ne). They are incredibly creative and imaginative, empathetic and value-oriented people.

1. Dominant function – Introverted feeling (Fi)

  • INFPs remain aware of their own feelings and emotions. They are in touch with their quiet and private emotional world. This makes them introspect and reflect on their thoughts and feelings. They are always clear about why they are thinking or feeling in a certain way.
  • Emotions determine their decision making process. They do not use logic and reasoning while deciding on important matters.
  • Their introverted feeling determines your strong sense of morality and ethics.
  • They are considerate and helpful individuals, though they remain quiet and inexpressive outwardly.
  • They are mistaken as emotionally aloof and cold.

2. Auxiliary function: Extraverted intuition (Ne)

  • The secondary cognitive function is the extraverted intuition (Ne) which helps the INFPs to gather information from the environment and form connections intuitively. This means that they explore various opportunities and possibilities before arriving at a decision.
  • Their inner world is deep and secret and they always focus on the big picture, rather than the small details.
  • Abstract and vague things can trigger their imagination any time.

3. Tertiary function: Introverted sensing (Si)

  • INFPs spend time exploring possibilities and fetching information from the outside world. INFPs can create detailed memories of their experiences.
  • They replay those experiences in the mind and sense them thoroughly to find out any hidden cues that they might need to make decisions in life.
  • Introverted sensing may help INFPs to analyze the subtle emotional expressions of others. They can also absorb every small detail such as the clothing, gestures, body language of the person, style of communication etc.
  • The impression of sensing gets deeper slowly and INFPs can actually analyze the specific behavior pattern of the person.

4. Inferior function: Extraverted thinking (Te)

  • Their thinking is not focused towards the external world. They love to live in an inner world of peace and poise.
  • This function mainly remains unconscious in an INFP personality. They are not good at organizing things in an objective and logical way.
  • Under stressful circumstances, they may suddenly become pragmatic, trying to behave what they are not.
  • Since they are ruled by instincts and emotions, INFPs struggle to feel efficient and productive.

INFP vs INFJ

Both these personality types are closely connected in terms of their cognitive functions and behavioral attributes. At first glance, you may not find any differences between the two types. They may appear the same.

Here, we will highlight both similarities and differences that will help you set them apart.

The similarities

INFJ and INFP personality types share the following traits and functions that make them kindred spirits.

  • Both these types avoid conflicts and confrontations at all costs. They have faith in peace.
  • INFPs and INFJs are creative, innovative and are driven by strong ideals and values.
  • Both these types are reserved, private, shy, and reticent people.
  • They are not outgoing and outspoken at all, though prefer to socialize only with like minded individuals.
  • Both are insightful and loves to live in an inner world of richness and pride
  • INFP and INFJ are caring, helpful, and remain passionate about whatever they are involved in.
  • Both these types possess strong belief systems that are hard to contradict.

Now if you want to pin down whether you’re an INFP or INFJ, you need to know the subtle differences between the two.

The Differences

INFPINFJ
INFPs are perceivers, though they are organized internally but may lack the structure and strategy to do things in an organized and meticulous way when the need for implementation of plans arises.INFJs are organized, meticulous, and punctual. They plan much ahead and don’t like the last-minute rush.
INFP is submissive, less assertive, and not confident enough to convince others with their words and actions.INFJs are more assertive, convincing, and straightforward.
INFP shows interest in knowing the various facets of human emotions. They are more sensitive than INFJ types.They are more interested to know the various patterns of outward behavior that a person manifests and tries to analyze the covert emotional component lying beneath them.
INFPs are more aware of their own feelings. They have an introverted feeling as a cognitive function that makes them behave in such a manner.INFJs are more sensitive and compassionate towards other people’s emotions than their own. Their extraverted feeling function makes them socially sensitive and empathetic.
INFPs trust their intuitions and gut feeling before prioritizing others’ emotions. They are not people pleasers.INFJs are more sensitive to the needs and emotions of others, thus they are people pleasers and give their best to make others happy and blissful.
INFPs are analytical thinkers.INFJs are artistic and creative thinkers.
INFPs can motivate and persuade others emotionally and make them do desirable things.INFJs persuade, inspire, and motivate others by offering alternatives. 
People with INFP personality types have an innate need to be validated as worthy.INFJs want to be understood by others.
INFP VS INFJ

Cognitive functional stack – differences

INFPINFJ
Dominant: introverted feeling (Fi)Dominant: Introverted intuition (Ni)
Auxiliary: Extraverted intuition (Ne)Auxiliary: Extraverted feeling (Fe)
Tertiary: Introverted sensing (Si)Tertiary: Introverted thinking (Ti)
Inferior: Extraverted thinking (Te)Inferior: Extraverted sensing (Se)
differences in cognitive functioning of INFP and INFJ

INFP compatibility

INFP is best compatible with personality types that share similar values and thought processes with them. The best compatible partner for the INFP is an ENFJ. Other compatible types are ESFJ and ENFJ.

The compatibility chart is given below:

Good match
ENFJ
ENTJ
INFP
ISTP
INFJ
INTJ
INTP
ENTP
Bad match
ISFP
ESFP
ENFP
ISFJ
ESFJ
ISTJ
ESTJ
Worst match
ESTP
INFP compatibility chart

INFP relationships

As far as relationships are concerned INFPs are loyal, dedicated, helpful, and faithful partners. They always lend well with like-minded people who may share some of their values, likes, and hobbies.

They are usually selective and choosy when it comes to selecting a life partner for themselves, or having a dear friend who can be with them through thick and thin.

They never compromise on values and thus would prefer someone who is ethical, yet kind and humble.

Let us get into the details of their relationship status and how they are fair as a romantic partner, friends, and parents.

1. Romantic partner/spouse

As romantic partners and spouses, INFPs are loyal and lovable. They believe in long-term committed relationships and thus choose their partner wisely.

INFPs are daydreamers as far as love is concerned. They may dream of having an ideal partner who will meet all their expectations of a great relationship. 

Truly speaking, they never wish to settle for less as far as their love life and marriage are concerned.

If the real dating scenario is not the one they expected, they may feel anxious about the future of the relationship, more so because they know about their uncompromising attitude.

INFPs hope to connect with their partner at a deeper level, so they always search for like-minded partners who share some common traits with them.

Sometimes, when they meet a prospective partner, they may start to look for compatible qualities before giving a nod to the relationship. They follow their instincts in choosing the right person for themselves.

Sometimes INFPs may struggle to understand that true love and building trustworthy bonds may take some hard work. 

Both partners need to adjust, love, care, and understand each other at a deeper level, to create a magical connection and deep-seated intimacy.

INFPs are devoted and loyal partners. They help their partners to fulfill their goals and aspirations.

2. INFP as a parent

An INFP parent is open-minded, warm, and caring. They are no-dominating parents and love to create a safe atmosphere for their children. 

Children are given the freedom to explore various opportunities, embark on a wide variety of interests and hobbies.

They teach their children the importance of learning by doing. Moreover, children reared up by INFP parents are value-oriented. They are confident kids who can take up any challenge with ease and grace.

INFPs are quite serious about their parenting role. They may feel like a failure if their children do not perform well in academics or fall short of basic human values.

They raise well-mannered, compassionate kids who are morally strong and have some unique qualities to show up in front of the world.

3. INFP as a friend

INFPs are introverts, so they want adequate alone time to be with themselves. Sometimes they may suffer from loneliness as well because they are quite choosy about their friendships.

For them, friendship is an authentic bond of trust and mutual understanding. They prefer friends who are less critical and can understand them well. Mediators are helpful friends. They always support their close pals in whatever way they can. Moreover, 


INFP in workplace

INFPs always have a sense of purpose in the workplace, driven by values. They try to build an emotional and ethical connection with the work they are doing. In short, they see that whether the work they are doing is helping others in some way or not.

As employees, INFP personality types are loyal, hardworking, and considerate people. They are honest and will do things in the right way, at the right time. 

INFPs can take pride in delegating their jobs with dedication and perseverance,

A mediator or negotiator personality type (INFP) also has a tendency to please others, from bosses to the subordinates, and even to the clients. 

They always like to be appreciated for their work. Praise and positive feedback can motivate them to perform at optimal levels. On the other hand, if someone criticizes them, they may shut down completely. 

If they are to work under a negative superior, they may find it hard to accomplish their assigned tasks. Being an introvert, INFPs may get anxious and stressed if they are asked to reply to endless emails and coordinate with clients and customers over the phone.

These individuals enjoy the freedom and always look for creative and insightful ways of doing things. Sometimes they may be caught up with laziness and procrastination and might not finish their assigned task on time.

Thus, deadlines and clear-cut goals can keep them focused on their work. INFPs like fairness and they like work environments where everyone gets a chance to express themselves freely and gets value and recognition in return.

INFPs as coworkers

INFPs are pleasant, compassionate, and helpful co-workers. Others may frequently come to them and share their problems and issues. INFPs are good at giving advice and they do it with refinement. 

When someone comes to them for help and support, INFPs readily support them without any expectations for praise or recognition. In this way, they are selfless as well.

You will never find an INFP getting into conflicts and disagreements at the workplace. 

Rather they are the ultimate peacemakers whom everyone looks up to in times of conflicts and office politics. They prefer to keep the work environment harmonious and poised.

INFPs as managers

As managers and leaders, INFPs are popular among their team members. They are accommodating and cooperative. They always respect their employee’s opinions and decisions.

They support their employees and motivate them to come up with novel ideas. An INFP manager never tells their teammates what to do and how to do it, rather they welcome out of the box ideas on the table,

Whenever possible, INFPs encourage their employees to develop new ideas and use their judgments diligently. 

Above all, INFP managers may become too lenient at times and that may harm the cohesiveness and discipline of the team, thus caution is highly recommended.


INFP and career choices

For INFPs, career choices are not just jobs, it’s a passion that is fulfilling and satisfying. They choose a career that fosters personal growth and also helps them to do things that they genuinely love.

The routine and monotonous job roles don’t interest them at all. There are some careers and vocations that may help INFP to express their creativity and freedom at work. Anything that allows them to express freely and imagine rich ideas are always welcome.

Mostly, people of this personality type take up helping professions that help to bring community change in the long run.

Their preferred career choices could be:

  • Writers
  • Psychologist
  • Social activist
  • Teacher
  • Marketing personnel
  • Counselor
  • Doctor
  • Public relation specialist
  • Graphic designers
  • Sports coach
  • Occupational therapist
  • Artist
  • Fashion designer
  • Photographer
  • Sociologist 
  • Anthropologist

INFP – strengths and shortcomings

Being an introvert, INFPs derive their mental strength from being alone. They are guided by intuitions and make decisions based on morals and values. 

The key strengths that are associated with the INFP personality type are as follows:

1. True empathy

INFPs are the people who can actually feel very deeply for other’s needs, problems, and emotions. They can put themselves in someone else’s shoes and see the world from their perspectives,

They can feel the emotions of the other person, their joy and sorrow, anger and frustration, regrets and resentments. 

Being kind-hearted and sensitive people, they can never hurt the feelings of others. Their purpose in life is to serve humanity in the best possible way.

2. Generous

Mediators (INFPs) are generous people. They give credit to those who deserve it. People with this personality type never enjoy the success that doesn’t belong to them alone. They put the credit to the team they are a part of.

INFPs are liberal and benevolent individuals. They believe in contributing to a better world where no one remains dissatisfied and their voices are heard and recognized.

3. Tolerant 

INFPs are open-minded and tolerant. They can readily accept the flaws and shortcomings of others. A good mediator never judges others, rather they perceive and analyze the person and situation closely before arriving at a decision.

They are poor fault finders and deal with compassion and generosity. INFPs are accepting and thus they can become someone’s very good friend and a close confidant.

4. Creative

INFPs are creative and believe in unconventional solutions to problems. They do not follow pointless rules that cannot bring immediate results, rather they prefer to try out innovative ways to do things.

They allow themselves to wander through various ideas and possibilities, develop the right strategies, and come up with a creative outcome.

5. Idealist

The most important strength of INFPs is their strong values and ethical judgments. They are idealists who think that the world is still an ideal place to thrive and grow. It is the person’s upbringing and values that can build a meaningful life.

The mediators (INFP) never fall short of their ideals. They will stick to their conscience even when they know that doing the right thing is not easy at all. These individuals never lose sight of what is right, for them, morality is the basis for purposeful living.

6. Passionate learners

INFPs are passionate learners. If they put their head and heart into something, they will put all the effort, time, and resources needed to accomplish the task successfully.

This personality rarely shows off what they are doing but that doesn’t reduce their passion and cravings to realize their aims in life.

INFP – shortcomings

1. Self-critical

Being an idealist, INFPs try to do things perfectly. If their performance falls short of their expectations, they may start to blame themselves. 

They are self-critical and may take things personally, even if they are not at fault for the failures or unsuccessful endeavors. This inadequacy feeling stems from fear of being judged by others.

These individuals remain excessively bothered about how others think and feel about them. They cannot sustain harsh criticisms and sudden failures for which they were not prepared.

2. Impractical

Another downside of this personality type is its impractical nature. As they are an idealist, they create ideas in mind, often forgetting the practical aspects of doing things. 

Sometimes they become so thoughtful that they may tend to ignore the practical aspects at hand. They prefer to solve issues creatively rather than through conventional, realistic ways.

3. Emotional and sensitive

INFPs are too sensitive and emotional when it comes to practical decision-making. They overemphasize emotions and feelings and that prevents them from studying the facts and figures objectively. They may get disappointed and uncomfortable if their ideals are hurt in some way.

4, People pleaser

In most of their social situations, mediators (INFPs) are people pleasers. They always try to keep everyone happy and avoid conflicts at all costs. 

People with this personality type are peace-loving and never like to get into unnecessary fights with anyone. They prefer peace and agreement.

Sometimes they ignore their needs and self-interests to accommodate the needs of others. They may drain their energy in desperation trying to please others.


How to relate with INFP personality? (Tips to guide you)

INFPs are pleasant and harmonious. They are idealists with a creative bent of mind. Though they are flexible and value harmony and peace. However, it might be difficult to deal with them in day-to-day life.

If you are dating an INFP or have an INFP boss working with you, you need to use some tricks and hacks to relate well with them. 

Some tips to guide you through the process of relationship-building are:

  • INFPs are sensitive and emotional. Thus, if you are looking forward to having a long term relationship with them, you need to respect their deep emotions.
  • You will have to give them time and attention to them at a deeper level. Since they are introverts, most of their emotions and actions are covert and they may be misunderstood as cold and affectless.
  • Give them alone time that they deserve and crave for.
  • Never try to criticize or evaluate their thoughts, feelings, and actions overtly. They may not like it. People with an INFP personality are not good at dealing with criticisms. But obviously, you can give healthy suggestions that are gentle and compassionate. They will surely take it positively.
  • Let them know that their thoughts and ideas matter. This will make them less self-critical about themselves.
  • Have patience when you are relating to an INFP because you may find them living in their minds and not showing their emotions as you expect them to do. Remember, they are reserved and private. INFPs take time to open up and you will have to wait for the right time.

Famous INFPs you may be knowing

You must be knowing the below-mentioned famous personalities who have an INFP personality type. 

They are the ones who have made their presence felt in various social arenas over these years. For others, they are the pillars of strength and motivation.


What INFPs hate?

INFPs can think logically and feel deeply. They hate certain human traits and behaviors because it makes them mentally uncomfortable.

  • INFPs hate people and situations that keep them constrained and tied. They just cannot deal with inflexible and rigid people.
  • Too much socialization, small talk, gossip, get-togethers are not liked by an INFP. They are reserved people who actually love to have a quiet and low key life.
  • INFPs are peace loving individuals. They try to negotiate and avoid conflicts at all costs. They hate confrontations.
  • They hate insincere and dishonest people.
  • INFPs also hate cruelty, injustice, maltreatments done to anyone.
  • INFPs would get irritated if they were to live a meaningless and purposeless life.
  • They hate judgements and criticisms that are meant to insult and humiliate them.
  • If they do not get enough alone time, they may feel stressed out. It may make them uncomfortable because they are introverts, and in any way reserved and private type of people.
  • INFPs would hate to relate with those people who may try to dismiss or nullify their thoughts as meaningless and not worthy.

It has been found that people sharing the same personality types often have the same interests and hobbies. Some of INFP hobbies are as follows:

  • Art in its diverse forms, from clay modelling, painting, to graphic designing
  • Cooking
  • Craft work such as origami, jewelry making, knitting, 
  • Creative writing
  • Dance
  • Playing musical instruments
  • Listening to podcasts
  • Reading non-fictions
  • Film making
  • Hiking and exploring nature
  • Playing video games
  • Photography
  • Travelling to distant lands, preferably a solo one

INFP Myers-Briggs personality test

The main purpose of the Myers-Briggs personality test is to give you an idea of the kind of person you are. This self-report inventory is based on the personality theory of Swiss psychologist Carl. Gustav Jung.

The test was developed by mother-daughter duo Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers that seemingly show the random variations in which people’s behavior changes according to personal qualities and environmental simulations from the outside world.

The 16 Myers-Briggs personality types are unique in their signs and describe how the individual perceives the surroundings and makes decisions in his/her life. 

The test consists of nearly 100 items that have two statements. The respondent will have to make a choice of any one of the statements that best suits his/her innate nature. MBTI describes people in four different categories.

These four categories were first identified by Carl Jung and further developed with extensive research by Myers-Briggs.

  • Introversion or extraversion
  • Sensing or intuition
  • Thinking or feeling
  • Judging or perceiving

One letter from each category is used to give the four-letter personality type of the person; such as INTP, ENTJ, ENFP, ISFP, etc. 

If you want to know your personality, you can take the test here


How rare is the INFP personality type?

INFPs constitute about 6.3% of the national sample in the USA. These ideally compassionate people are often artists, authors, or people belonging to any kind of helping profession.

They are flexible, yet remain turned to their set beliefs and values. They never give up on values to please others. Only 4.6% of men and 8% of women have this personality type.


INFP personality type – major stress triggers

When people experience a negative life experience, they may feel anxious, restless, and depressed and may think about how to deal with such stress triggers.

INFP personality types may feel emotionally overburdened and stressed because of the following stress triggers. 

  • Harsh criticisms
  • Immoral behavior
  • Pessimistic approach of others
  • Relationship conflicts where they may need to compromise
  • Unfaithful people who use others to meet their self-interests
  • Inflexible schedules
  • Purposeless living
  • Getting stuck in crowds
  • Showy social gestures that appears false
  • Draining tasks that kills their logical and intuitive thoughts
  • Complaining and nagging individuals who never look for a solution, rather focuses only on complaints.
  • To many demands on their time and other limited resources
  • Having their values under a scanner

How do they deal with stress triggers?

INFP can bust their stress triggers in the following ways:

  • Get some ‘me time’ to think deeply and come up with novel solutions to the problems
  • Walk through nature to relax and have some peace of mind
  • Learn to say no to things that you cannot do or doesn’t want to do
  • Read a book
  • Listen to soothing music
  • Take a hot bath
  • Play with a pet, if you have one
  • Create a piece of art that you have not even touched for long
  • Try to get out of your heads by pursuing a hobby and keeping yourself busy

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Key takeaway from ‘ThePleasantPersonality’

INFP (the mediator) personality type is blessed with unique qualities and talents. They are a perfect blend of wit and humor, sensitivity and passion, insight and understanding.

Being invariably creative, they are bestowed with unique ideas and that makes them great poets, writers, and philosophers.

INFPs can stand tall amidst challenges and conflicts and as such, they can help others grow and prosper in life. Their flame of optimism can surely light up the hearts of few if not many.

“Every great dream begins with the dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars and change the world.” Harriet Tubman

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